As parents we want our children to be happy. This is never more important than when you separate. Obviously when children get older, they might want some input into decisions, but certainly for younger children it is imperative that the decision about where they are going to live lies with you, their mum and dad.
Asking a child who they want to live with puts them firmly in the middle of you both – how can they possibly choose when they love you both?
So, decide together and present it to them stating that the non-resident parent will see them regularly.
Sometimes teens pose a challenge when they are pushing against rules or boundaries. Try not to get into parent ‘ping pong’. Be strong and back each other up. Emotionally it’s much better for the child not to keep chopping and changing where they live.